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Sometimes Travel Is About Who You Visit, Not Where You Go

I used my Travel Rewards points to book a flight. It isn’t to somewhere exotic; in fact, it’s to a place I’ve already been twice before. Yet with my current excitement level, you’d think I’m finally setting off on that backpacking trip through Southeast Asia.

In the past decade with so many months spent on the road, I’ve embraced solo travel—and it’s taught me more than I could ever learn at any job. But I have also worked hard at nurturing the relationships, near and far, that mean the most to me.

Sometimes travel is about going home for the holidays. Sometimes travel is about celebrating your friend’s marriage or newborn baby. Sometimes travel is about cherishing those last few breaths with a loved one.

And sometimes it’s about making the most of a quick trip simply to dance like a fool with your bestest friend.

7 Reasons Why WhatsApp is the Greatest Messaging App Known to Man

It’s time to get with the times, people. Even I, a millennial who just recently learned all the Kardashian names (I kid; I still don’t know them all), am a frequent user of the greatest technological advancement in phone messaging history: WhatsApp.

Why am I qualified to write a non-sponsored ad for WhatsApp? (It’s true. This isn’t sponsored. I just really, really love WhatsApp.) As an avid traveler with family and friends abroad, I need a messaging app that won’t have me racking up roaming charges, one that lets me stay in touch easily and effortlessly.

I’ve tried many other apps, and in fact still have some of them on my computer (Skype, Facebook Messenger). I’ve heard about Google Hangouts and Viber. But I can’t seem to break my love affair with this messaging genius. My name is Stacey and I’m a WhatsAppaholic.

If you don’t agree with me, you might want to agree with the rest of the world:

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Throughout Latin America, many countries advertise WhatsApp as the main messaging system. And instead of telling someone, “send me a text,” you’ll hear people telling them to WhatsApp them (in Spanish of course, you silly wabbits).

Here’s a list of reasons why you should download WhatsApp right meow. I’ll start with the best one first.

 1. Emojis

Hail to ye, O WhatsApp, a god among emojis. Not only do you have ample choosing, you can also change the skin tone to be racially diverse, politically correct, or have that black Santa you always wanted. It’s about damn time an app realized we’re not all white.

The quality of the emojis is top notch. Sorry, Google, but your gumdrop emojis just don’t cut it for me. WhatsApp also has two of my favorite, most unique emojis: the Stanley Hudson and the awkward nerd face (both of which are me to a T). They rank high among my frequently used.

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Image credit: Stacey Venzel and Stanley Hudson

 2. Videos

If you’ve got a large video file that won’t send over email or Messenger, chances are, WhatsApp’s got you covered. Like those 12-minute videos you take of your dog that your friend just has to see this very moment.

 3. Live chat

Phone call or video chat with WhatsApp’s updated version. It works, people. I use it often. It’s FaceTime, but better.

4. Gallery storage

You can turn on or off the settings to automatically download all WhatsApp media to a separate file in your image gallery. For organization’s sake, this is killer for perfectionists.

5. Search option

It’s easy to find past conversations by perusing the search tool much like you would using Ctrl+F on a PC. (That’s  the”Find” shortcut for all you Baby Boomers.)

6. Forwarding option

If you come across a video on YouTube that your friend musthaverightnow, you can send it by clicking the share button and selecting the WhatsApp feature. Easy peasy. No more of these copy and paste shenanigans.

 7. Text referencing

If you’re like me and my pow-wow buddies, your brain ping pongs all over the place, and your fingers text that entire game of ping pong in a thread that would cause someone outside the conversation to question your sanity.

But if your fingers can’t keep up with your brain or your friend’s brain, you can reference past messages via the quote-reply feature. It is unknown to many, but I’m sharing it with you now cuz I care.

Just highlight the message of choice (e.g. Friend: “How do you feel about dogs?”), click the arrow second from the left at the top of the screen (there will be many arrows; choose wisely), and type in a message (e.g. You: “When they stare at me, I melt.”) Your friend’s message will pop up above yours when you send. You can do the same thing with images, too! Stop it, WhatsApp. I’m crushing hard on you.

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So there you have it. WhatsApp is a cybertastic cultural phenomenon, and for once, I’m not behind the times.

I’ve still got my $25/month pre-paid SMS texting, but I prefer WhatsApping when I’m connected to wifi.

Lastly, to any of my friends reading this who downloaded WhatsApp just for me and my vagabond ways, it means a lot. Friends for life, WhatsApp for life.

Okay, I’m done, I swear.

What’s your favorite phone chat app? Join the discussion below!

Give 100% to Your Dreams

For a nomadic gal like me, staying in one place can make me feel trapped like an animal in a cage. But as a social butterfly and, well, a female, I’m drawn to community. The vagabond life is filled with intrepid, like-minded travelers, but when I’m on the road, I miss my trivia nights, community theatre and local hot spots where the owner knows me by name. I miss feeling like I’m a part of something, like I belong.

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This is one of the reasons I’m drawn to traveling slowly. Life is certainly easier when you stay put. But I’m not cut out for the cookie cutter American dream. So I’m blazing my own trail. I’m making my own dreams.

I’m merging my passions, defining travel in my own way and pursuing a multitude of dreams and opportunities. I’m learning that “staying put” is all relative.

I’ll always be that girl with a backpack. But I’m so much more than that girl.

We only have one life to live. Let’s not half-ass it.

Peru’s “Mini Galapagos”

If you make it to Peru this summer–or ever–be sure to take a trip out to the Ballestas Islands. Tour boats leave from the coastal tourist town of Paracas. It’s worth shelling out $30 or so for the two-hour cruise through the rock island arches. You’ll see penguins, blue-footed boobies and sea lions, oh my!

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These three creatures are a unique combination found in Ecuador’s Galapagos Islands. Because of this, the Ballestas Islands have been nicknamed the “Mini Galapagos.” If you’re traveling South America and want a glimpse of the island wildlife without having to pay an arm and a leg to make it to the Galapagos (which is worth it and one day I will shell out my savings for it), then don’t miss out on this nature excursion!

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Look closely! I spot 10 penguins in this photo. How many do you see?

Sure, it’s super touristy and you have to view the animals from the boat, but it’s a rare chance to observe these creatures in their natural environment. There’s no feeding of the animals, either, so they’re not exploited.

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Depending on what time of year you go, you’ll see a hundred sea lions or a dozen. But regardless, you will see some up close and personal snoozing on guano-covered rocks. No, that’s not snow. It’s penguin poop.

Look closely in the second photo. How many penguins do you see? I count 10!

What I Learned About Love While Traveling Solo in Peru

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Some argue that love is part of the basic human condition, and therefore inescapable even in wanderlust. Come Sunday, love will certainly be unavoidable. Because Hallmark places love front and center on Valentine’s Day.

But if you’re struggling with a confused heart while your friends are flaunting engagement rings, teddy bears, flowers, cards and candy, you shouldn’t hide away in your room. Celebrate love like you celebrate life. Celebrate you.

We should really celebrate love every day. But on Valentine’s Day, we can be reminded that the most important person to love is yourself.

When I traveled solo around Peru last summer, this life lesson was made clear to me. Alone, wandering dirt paths skirting the Andes mountains, I played both teacher and student. Time alone preached to me that my worth is not defined in the eyes of a relationship. It made me see that I should always feel complete in my own skin, whether in or out of love.

For a relatively timely piece that details what I learned about love while traveling solo in Peru, read my last article here as a Feature Writer for Pink Pangea.

Appreciating the Ancient Art of Snail Mail

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When you’re down in the dumps and a trip to the mailbox reveals a handwritten letter tucked among the bills, you know your day is looking up to be better than it has been. Whether it’s a holiday greeting, postcard, pen pal or message from the abyss, you surely get a smile on your face. There’s something special about snail mail, comfort in the knowledge that someone took time to use pen and paper, lick a stamp and drop you a line the old fashioned way, in a day and age when cyberspace is at our fingertips.

Prior to my gypsy wanderings, I try to sneak a peek at the numbers on my friends’ mailboxes and jot them down in my travel journal. That way my postcards are a surprise. But sometimes it’s not that easy. Sometimes I’m sending postcards to people I haven’t seen or thought about in years. A random email or Facebook message asking for their address leaves them wondering and anticipating; their excitement and gratitude in pulling my chicken scratch out of their mailbox a week later is not lessened by the lacking element of surprise. How could it be? They hold in their hand concrete evidence in this seemingly broken world that we’re somehow still connected.

Travel teaches you, reminds you, to make new friends but keep the old. People come and go in our lives. What we make of their entrances and departures is up to us.

When the neighbor girl I babysat moved away during my teenage years, we sent each other a letter every few months for a couple years. Then we grew up and life got in the way.

After a mission trip in Brazil building a school for kids, I sent some of the school children letters once a year for awhile, painstakingly using Google translator to turn my English into Portuguese, including photos recapping my year. Now they’re grown up, not quite children anymore.

Sometimes I write letters to strangers, people who are important to me but don’t even know who I am. For Lent one year, I made a list of 40 organizations that I believe are making a difference in this world. I cut the list into slips of paper and put the pieces in a bowl. Every day for 40 days I pulled an organization out of the bowl and wrote a thank you note. Surprisingly, many of the organizations replied, thanking me. Me, a drop in a sea of people, a stranger just trying to pay it forward. I may have made a difference in their day, maybe even their week, but these groups are making differences in people’s lives.

This Lenten promise humbled me. It spoke volumes of these organizations to send unexpected, personalized responses. It reaffirmed my experience that the little things are as important as the big things.

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I’ve followed the same Lenten promise with friends, family and associates in my life. I’ve inked the names of 40 individuals past and present who have shaped me into the person I am today, and I’ve sent them a scrawling note of my rambling gratitude. Recently, an old college roommate sent me a photo of the pages I’d mailed her. She said she was rifling through old stuff and came across it. We hadn’t talked in years. What a smile that put on my face, hearing from someone out of the blue.

And then I was reminded of the small collection of letters I’ve kept over the years. Some are tucked away in an envelope, a handful are scattered in the nooks and crannies of my car, a few are taped to my mirror, and still others are swimming in my Mary Poppins purse. They are notes I rediscover by happenstance; they are affirmations I seek out when I’m feeling blue; they are tangible memories of the has-beens and reminders of the could-bes.

Snail mail should never be taken for granted. It is one thing I miss when I’m a nomad, a denizen with no address, or a girl in the jungle, on an island, in an exotic locale with limited means of communication. I’m currently decluttering the “stuff” of my life, but my bundle of letters is not something I’m willing to rid my life of.

The next time you set off on a big adventure, blossom with new friendships. But never forget those who have already come and gone; remember those who have made you who you are today.

15 Things to Do Before Moving Abroad

 

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1. Quit your job.

Kind of a no-brainer here. This can be done by putting in your notice exactly two weeks prior to your departure date, or the moment you decide it is time to move.  I found it easier to go about the moving preparations when I had a lot of free time on my hands.  You will have a busy schedule of things-to-do before you leave, and being tied up at work makes this tricky.

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2. Sell your car.

Word of mouth in a small town might be the easiest way to get your vehicle off your hands.  It allows you some leeway regarding the date you turn over the keys, as you will likely want to have a set of wheels handy right up until the time you leave.  But sometimes there just aren’t enough interested car shoppers if you go this route, in which case an ad online is the next best thing; it’s free and targets a larger audience.

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3. Get rid of your furniture.

A garage sale won’t get you the prices your furniture deserves, so I recommend using an online service to sell your tables, chairs, lamps, sofas, beds, etc. (All hail ye, Craigslist.)

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4. Cancel your cell phone service.

Unfortunately, most data providers require a cancellation fee if you are terminating your plan.  However, if you are going to be abroad for more than a few months, it is worthwhile to cancel your plan.  You will save money in the long run.  Instead of wasting money on international rates, purchase a local phone once you arrive at your destination. (Contracted plans take advantage of the customer; a pay-as-you-go works great even in the States. You can get a $20 touch screen phone at any gas station or convenience store—trust me, they’re there—with the same perks as a contracted plan, but cheaper.) Save your iPhone!  Refer to #13 to find out why.

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5. Thin out your closet.

This is a must-do for both males and females.  Go through your clothes, shoes, and accessories.  Give away the sweaters hanging in the back of your closet that you forgot about, the shoes you’ve only worn once, and the (man)purses you could do without.  Offer your clothes to same-size friends, take them into work and put them in the break room for people to go through, or donate to a local charity.

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6. Do away with all the tchotchkes, knickknacks and junk.

It would be nice to rope in a little extra cash selling all that “stuff” we accumulate, and one person’s junk can always be another person’s treasure.  However, using the internet to sell anything that isn’t technically useful is generally a waste of time.  The hassle of setting up a time for someone to come look at or pick up an item being sold for under $30 typically isn’t worth it.  If you want to make any sort of buck off the little things, a garage sale is the way to go.  Keep in mind it is time consuming and often only brings in a couple hundred dollars.  I was happier biting the bullet and gave away most of my small stuff to friends (give them something to remember you by!) or charities.

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7. Get rid of your kitchenware.

Figure out what you are going to take with you abroad, what you are going to sell, and whether or not you really need 15 plastic cups.  If dinnerware and silverware do not have some sentimental value to you, it might be more cost-effective to buy replacements when you get to your new home instead of lugging these with you.  Cut down on the number of pots and pans you take with you.  Ask yourself what you can do without.  Can you use a fork to mash potatoes instead of a beater?  Does the cookie jar really have to make the trip?  (It’s never filled with cookies anyway.)  Tupperware can easily be purchased abroad, and let’s face it, half the containers are probably missing lids. It might be helpful to research the local cuisine in your new stomping grounds as grocery stores differ from country to country in products they sell.

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8. Tell your bank you’re going out of the country.

To protect yourself from having your credit card canceled unexpectedly while you’re abroad, let your bank know you will be traveling internationally.  This can be done through an automated phone service that will ask which countries you intend to visit and your dates of travel.  Most banks also let you do it online, so make sure you’re signed up for online banking.

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9. Request e-mail notifications for important information.

For all of those reminders and alerts that can be sent to your inbox instead of your mailbox, change your notification preferences to email.  I recommend doing this with your bank and any other financial institutions or payment services.

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10. Change your address at the post office.

While you may have signed up for email notifications for most if not everything, you will undoubtedly still receive mail at your last place of address.  I recommend you set up a forwarding address where important paperwork can still be sent and received.  Try asking a relative or a close friend if they would be so kind as to let you use their address, and alert them to what they should set aside, open immediately, or just toss in the trash. You can pick up a “Change of Address” form at the post office, or simply visit their website.  Forwarding of postal mail can be done for up to one year.

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11. Contact your family and close friends.

Make sure the people you care about—and who care about you!—know where you’ll be headed.  Give them your email address to keep in touch.  You never know when you’ll see each other again! It’s a small world after all.

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12. Set up a Skype account.

Make sure you stay connected with people on Skype.  Social media, email, and live chat services have made “keeping in touch” seem like a thing of the past.  It is a good idea to create a Skype account before you go so that they already have contact information for you when you’re saying goodbye.

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13. Download WhatsApp on your iPhone.

WhatsApp is a free mobile texting app.  (Why Americans don’t use it to cut down on the costs in their data plan is beyond me.)  Your iPhone acts as an iPod touch when connected to Internet, so it’s a good idea to keep your old phone in the event that you only purchase a cheap flip phone in your next destination.  You need an active phone number only to get started.  All your texts will be linked to this number, so if you end up using a friend’s phone number like I did for your WhatsApp account, you might get texts from your friend’s friends.  Thus, I recommend you link it with your existing number before cancelling your mobile plan. You can still use WhatsApp linked to that number once the plan is cancelled. Don’t ask me how it works that way; it just does. Or, you can link your WhatsApp to the phone you purchase in your new destination.  If you get a cheap flip phone, as long as it can receive the initial confirmation text code to start your WhatsApp, you’re good to go!

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14. Change or cancel your voter registration.

If you don’t want to be called to jury duty while you’re away, it is important that you take care of this. You can sign up for an Absentee ballot instead.

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15. Throw yourself a farewell party! (I’m really good at this one.)

If someone else doesn’t do it for you, don’t be too shy to gather your friends for one last hoorah before you head out.  You will have a lot of people wanting to “get together before you go,” and it can be time-consuming—not to mention costly—to go out to lunch with everyone before you leave.  So have yourself a big send-off, and encourage people to spread the word just in case you accidentally left anyone out.

What other things need to be done before moving abroad? Leave a comment below!

By Air and Sea: Paragliding in Peru & Spain, Parasailing in Florida

Avid travelers see landscapes by foot, train and bus far more often than by air or sea. But maybe we should rethink that. Scenic boat rides and bird’s eye views really put the world in perspective.

My instructor prepares me for our tandem take-off paragliding in Bilbao, Spain.
My instructor prepares me for our tandem take-off paragliding in Bilbao, Spain.

In Peru this past May, my sister treated me to a birthday paragliding trip over a small mountain range south of Lima. This was my second time paragliding after a peaceful jump of a cliff face in the Bilbao region of Spain back in 2010. Both times were humbling—though my instructor did some acrobatics in Peru that left my stomach turning! In Spain, we paralleled the dynamic line of land and sea, dually unnerving and thrilling knowing you have nothing but the wind preventing you from dropping hundreds of feet into the cold dark waters below. A hawk joined us in flight over Bilbao while a pair of caracaras danced on their wings through the sky in Peru.

For another birthday a couple years ago, my best friend from the Florida Keys and I enjoyed a birthday parasailing trip out of Key West. This was another mix of tranquility and adrenaline rushes as we soared above greens and blues and dropped for quick dips into the chop below.

Parasailing over the Florida Keys is as beautiful as it is fun!
Parasailing over the Florida Keys is as beautiful as it is fun!

All of these experiences offered me a unique look at my surroundings. Completely immersed in nature, I was at one with the birds in the sky, towering over the foreboding ocean and steep, rocky terrain. If you have the opportunity to take in your travels from a different vantage point, I say do it. It’s one thing I’ve never regretted shelling out money for. You’ll undoubtedly test your courage, have some fun and, hopefully, encounter a fleeting, memorable state of nirvana.

It’s Not About Where You Go But What You Do When You Get There

The trip that made me reflect on how I travel was the exploration of my roots in Eastern Europe. Here I am learning about my ancestry in Budapest, Hungary.
The trip that made me reflect on how I travel was the exploration of my roots in Eastern Europe. Here I am learning about my ancestry in Budapest, Hungary.

For years, one goal has been on repeat in the back of my mind, an endless playlist of only one song: 30 under 30. I have had a goal to visit 30 countries by the time I turn 30. That gives me two-and-a-half years from today to hit 11 more foreign locales.

There is one big problem with this objective. It can be a hindrance to my adventures; it has made me want to pack up and move on to the next stop so I can put another mark on my checklist. What I need to do is rip out the earbuds to my internal iPod so I can live in the moment.

Many with a case of the wanderlust might disagree. Isn’t that the very definition of wanderlust, always wanting to be going places, always searching for new things? When has anyone every complained about setting a goal?

Traveling is a time for growth, a time when we get to know ourselves on the inside and out. Since I first stepped foot in an exotic land eight years ago, I’ve learned a great deal about why I travel: I travel for me and no one else.

Of course travel entails viewing impressive landscapes, eating questionable food and making new friends. But for me, the biggest draw of travel is culture. I am on a circuit of the unfamiliar, immersing myself in foreign languages and customs, undiscovered faces and societies. I am uncomfortable, and it isn’t until I achieve a level of comfort that I feel like I can leave a place behind. Travel is about more than just going somewhere; it is about learning and then doing.

I only recently came to the realization that traveling slowly is the right fit for me. I remember when it happened, popping into my head like a swift kick from a horse, snapping me off my conveyor belt and rooting me in the here and now. I was in Hungary, the beginning of a two-week vacation from work, and I was intent on exploring my ancestry. My father is straight up Hungarian while my mother’s side is a mix of the dissolved ethnicities of Yugoslavia and Bohemia. I only had fourteen days and a few hundred bucks to discover where I came from.

Time and a budget constrained me. Though these are not normally welcomed with open arms by the average wayfarer, they made me take pause.

Two weeks, I said aloud sitting on the bed of a hostel in Budapest. Remember your budget, I repeated as I scanned restaurant menus for authentic cuisine. It’s not enough, I heard myself saying while I learned about the war-ravaged history of this forgiving nation on a walking tour. It simply wasn’t enough.

And so instead of cramming the exploration of my ancestry—Hungary, the Czech Republic (ancient Bohemia) and all six present-day countries that make up historic Yugoslavia—into one limited trip, I said, Next time.

See, that’s the thing about wanderlust. There’s always a next time.

I’ve been to Europe three times now. Why can’t I make it once more?